Christian dating and chemistry
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Perhaps you are considering pursuing someone or allowing someone to pursue you. When it comes to marriage, godly character is not just a deal breaker; it is what the game is all about. Without a deep love for Jesus, marriage will be miserable.
Although these categories are probably not exhaustive, they may be helpful as you think about a potential mate. This is first on the list because without it nothing else matters. The potential wife should be maturing into a Proverbs 31 woman and the potential husband should be a Psalm 112 man.
Biblical Christians, however, are called to think differently.
My friends say I'm crazy for doubting our relationship.Let's examine two problems with the "attraction-as-foundation" approach to dating and marriage — one theological, one practical — and then look at the idea of biblical attraction. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.We are to take every thought, every area of our lives captive to the word of God.Thankfully, "attraction" does play a role in finding a husband or wife. Biblically, however, attraction as the world understands it cannot be the foundation on which a godly marriage is built.